Etiquette Quotes — Notes on Southern manners and etiquette — Nicholas Sarkozy’s father to exhibit paintings of Carla Bruni — Sugar: the shortage worse than expected — ‘Diabetic effect’ in dolphins offers new hope for type 2 diabetes cure — Wine: Sweet vs dry champagne — Champagne & Sparkling Wine Facts : Don Perignon Champagne Facts Video — Dining Etiquette – European vs. American Dining Style Video — Teacher Emphasizes Old-Fashioned Etiquette — 7 Secrets of the Emergency Room — Music Videos by Melody Gardot
Etiquette is the code that governs the expectations of social behavior, the conventional norm. It is an unwritten code, which evolves from written rules. It usually reflects a theory of conduct that society or tradition has invested heavily in. Like “culture”, it is a word that has gradually grown plural, especially in a multi-ethnic society with many clashing expectations. Your etiquettes go a long way in defining what kind of a person you are.
These quotes can be used to define the basic rules of socially acceptable behavior as well as to present some of the finest behavior patterns observed over the centuries and across different cultures. They can be used to underline the importance of etiquettes in a cultured society.
O form! how oft dost thou with thy case, thy habit, wrench awe from fools, and tie the wiser souls to thy false seeming!
Don’t reserve your best behavior for special occasions. You can’t have two sets of manners, two social codes – one for those you admire and want to impress, another for those whom you consider unimportant. You must be the same to all people. Lillian Eichler Watson
Etiquette has no regard for moral qualities. Douglas William Jerrold
It is wise to apply the oil of refined politeness to the mechanisms of friendship. Colette
Trifles themselves are elegant in him. Alexander Pope
Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength. Eric Hoffer
A finished person is a boring person.
We don’t bother much about dress and manners in England, because as a nation we don’t dress well and we’ve no manners.
George Bernard Shaw
Etiquette is the invention of wise men to keep fools at a distance. Sir Richard Steele
One of the greatest victories you can gain over someone is to beat him at politeness. Josh Billings
To have respect for ourselves guides our morals; and to have a deference for others governs our manners. Lawrence Sterne
A man may with more impunity be guilty of an actual breach, either of real good breeding or good morals, than appear ignorant of the most minute points of fashionable etiquette. Sir Walter Scott
Etiquette is the ceremonial code of polite life, more voluminous and minute in each portion of society according to its rank. John Ramsay McCulloch
Associate with well-mannered persons and your manners will improve. Run around with decent folk and your own decent instincts will be strengthened. Stanley Walker
Starch makes the gentleman, etiquette the lady. George Bryan Brummell
Cleanliness and order are not matters of instinct; they are matters of education, and like most great things, you must cultivate a taste for them. Benjamin Disraeli
Politeness and consideration for others is like investing pennies and getting dollars back. Thomas Sowell
We show wisdom by a decent conformity to social etiquette; it is excess of neatness or display that creates dandyism in men, and coquetry in women. Robert Adam
Manners maketh man. William of Wykeham
What are these wondrous civilizing arts, this Roman polish, and this smooth behavior that render man thus tractable and tame? Joseph Addison
Politeness, n. The most acceptable hypocrisy. Ambrose Bierce
Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot. Clarence Thomas
Here are various matters of manners that I found on the web and by just asking people about the topic of Southern manners and etiquette.
• Funerals – Stop and pull over for a funeral procession unless doing so would create a genuine hazard (not just an inconvenience).
• Titles – Use “Mr.” or “Mrs.” or “Miss” (plus the last name) when addressing someone until that person asks you to use their first name.
• “Sir” and “Ma’am” – Use “Yes, sir” and “No, sir” (or ma’am) unless the other person asks that you do otherwise.
• Thank You notes – When someone gives you a gift. Keep a supply of Thank You note cards on hand.
• Handshakes – A proper handshake is a firm handshake. The web between thumb and forefinger of both parties should touch. It is a handshake not a fingershake.
• Teacups – Despite what you may see in a movie, extending the “pinkie” is comical – not polite.
• Opening doors – Holding a door open for another is the right thing to do no matter who it is, but it should especially be done for women, the handicapped, and your elders.
• Hats and caps – This is one of the most commonly violated rules of polite behavior, and a new generation of Southerners has apparently failed to realize that wearing a ball cap in a restaurant or other indoor location is just plain rude. The rule is basically this – if you are in a place where people would commonly sit down, then you remove your hat or cap. So, hats are OK in a shopping mall, not OK in a restaurant. Hats are always OK when outdoors except for times when it is removed as a show of respect. Examples of hat removal for respect are during a funeral, during a prayer, during the playing of the National Anthem (including Dixie or other songs equivalent to a national anthem), as the flag passes by (federal or Confederate), and any other time you want to indicate respect.
• Don’t confuse etiquette and manners. It’s bad etiquette to use your dinner fork on your salad. It’s bad manners to comment that someone used their dinner fork on their salad. Manners always trumps etiquette.
Daily Mail By Mail Foreign Service 8th February 2010
Kitsch paintings by the French President’s father are to go on show in an upmarket Parisian gallery.
Pal Sarkozy, 82, who has a penchant for painting naked women, will be selling the works for £7,000 each.
Despite his surreal paintings being panned by critics, Mr Sarkozy senior’s larger-than-life canvases will go on display at the Espace Pierre Cardin in Paris in April.
Perhaps having the President of France for a son and former supermodel Carla Bruni for a daughter-in-law has helped the pensioner’s artistic career.
The centrepiece of the exhibition will be a large canvas of Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, the former supermodel and singer who married the French president in 2008.
It depicts her strumming a guitar while seated on a piano. Her husband is featured nearby at his desk.
The canvas was a wedding gift to an ‘adorable girl’ who helped end years of estrangement between father and son, Pal Sarkozy said.
In notes to promote the show, the ex-advertising designer explained: ‘There is a rose on the piano as a symbol of the openness of Nicolas to the political Left, but also an emblem of love.’
The Pierre Cardin gallery, however, appeared embarrassed to be hosting the exhibition, giving it no space on its website for pre-publicity.
A spokesman told a French art magazine: ‘We hire out part of our space for private shows. We don’t have a choice. We can’t refuse.’
At least Mr Sarkozy senior has openly admitted how his son’s job has boosted his career, saying: ‘His position helps me enormously.’
The fortunes of the family have been transformed since the minor Hungarian aristrocrat arrived penniless in Paris in 1948 and once told his schoolboy son:
‘With the name you carry and the results you get, you will never succeed in France.’
Biographers suggest that President Sarkozy had a very difficult relationship with his father, who abandoned his mother and her three sons when Nicolas was five.
But when Mr Sarkozy senior secured an exhibition in Spain, the centrepiece was an imposing picture of his son wearing France’s highest honour, the Legion d’Honneur as an earring.
Le Figaro – Guillaume Guichard – 19/02/2010 (English Translation)
The gap between supply and demand for sugar for the 2009/2010 season is even deeper than expected, according to the International Sugar Organization. The price per tonne, which has reached record highs in January, is on.
The sugar market is doing even worse than expected. The gap between supply and demand should rise to 9.42 million tonnes in the 2009/2010 season, according to latest figures from the International Sugar Organization (OIS). She previously was counting on a gap of 7.3 million tonnes. In case of disastrous harvests in Brazil and India.
The upward revision in output of 3.7% to 157.16 million tons, not enough to meet the 1.5% increase in demand, to 166.58 tonnes. Concrete manifestation of this state of shortage, the price of white sugar for May delivery rose Friday to 1.1%, to 714.50 dollars per ton on the Liffe market, reports Bloomberg. In January, prices had reached record at $ 767 per tonne.
Two consecutive poor harvests in India and Brazil have caused imbalances in the sugar market. “This season, the weather has cut nearly 10 million tons production of these two giants,” says Emmanuel Jayet responsible agricultural research at Societe Generale. Suddenly, the Indians, who were exporting sugar there are still two years, must find “emergency” between 3 and 5 million tonnes, warned Friday in a report the government’s economic advisers.
To make matters worse, farmers have encouraged the production of cereals, the price of the latter being far more interesting than sugar. Finally, the forced withdrawal of European exports, following the reform of EU sugar market, returned to remove nearly 5 million tonnes market these last two years.
Result of these tensions, stocks are at their lowest. Although the 2010-2011 season should disappear the gap between supply and demand, as required by ISO, the very low levels of stocks interview. However, “production should rebound thanks to high prices will encourage farmers to produce more sugar,” says Emmanuel Jayet. If the weather permits.
The strategist expects stable prices at a very high level in the coming months and would erode gradually to 509 euros per tonne in the fourth quarter of 2010.
Dolphins are the only animals apart from humans to develop a natural form of type 2 diabetes, according to new research. The discovery offers important insights into a disease that is linked to one in 20 deaths.
American scientists have discovered that bottlenosed dolphins show a form of insulin resistance very similar to that seen in human diabetes. Unlike patients with the condition, the marine mammals can turn this state on and off when appropriate, so it is not normally harmful.
The findings indicate that dolphins could provide a valuable animal model for investigating type 2 diabetes, which promises to advance research into new therapies. If researchers can learn how the animals switch off their insulin resistance before it becomes damaging, it could be possible to develop a cure.
Stephanie Venn-Watson, a veterinary epidemiologist at the US National Marine Mammal Foundation, who led the research, said that it could have profound implications for a disease that affects an estimated 2.75 million adults in Britain.
It suggests that the bottle-nosed dolphin is “an important, natural and long-lived model for insulin resistance and diabetes, a disease that accounts for 5 per cent of human deaths globally”, she told the San Diego conference of the American Association for the Advancement of Science. “It is our hope that this discovery can lead to novel ways to prevent, treat and even cure diabetes in humans while also benefiting dolphin health.”
She emphasised that the research did not mean that dolphins should be used as laboratory animals, as their large brains and high intelligence would make this unethical. Studies of their genetic code and physiology, revealed by blood and urine samples, could nevertheless provide important clues to the biology of diabetes.
The unexpected discovery has emerged from a study of more than 1,000 blood samples collected from 52 dolphins. When the animals had fasted overnight, their blood sugar remained high and their blood chemistry changed in ways similar to diabetic patients. Unlike people with diabetes, the dolphins’ blood reverted to normal once they had been fed.
Dr Venn-Watson said that such controlled diabetes might be beneficial to dolphins. Their diet of fish is high in protein and low in sugar, and they often go long periods without eating, yet they have large brains with high energy demands.
By making their bodies resistant to insulin while fasting, they may be able to keep their brains well supplied with sugar…
You have to go out of your way to track down sweet champagne. These days, it seems, there’s one golden rule: the drier, the better
Sweetness is not just a matter of personal taste, it’s also subject to changing fashions. In the 19th century, they preferred their champagne sweeter than they did in the 20th. And that progress towards drier styles continues: quality champagne producers love to mutter about how pernicious it is that sugar is used to mask poor-quality wines, and say proudly that their brut NV is less sweet than many others.
It does not end there: we are increasingly being persuaded to try champagne in its most ear-splittingly dry form – zero dosage. Dosage is the mixture of sugar and wine used to top up the liquid levels on a bottle after the debris from its secondary fermentation (which gives the wine its fizz) has been removed. In a brut champagne, the dosage may take the residual sugar of the champagne up to 12g/litre (until last summer, it was higher, at 15g/litre). In a zero-dosage one, the sugar dose is, well, zero.
The intriguing thing, as I discovered at a seminar led by the bow-tied president of Ayala, Hervé Augustin, and titled The Sugar Experience, is that adjusting the dosage does not just affect the sweetness but also the development of the wine. Ayala Brut Majeur and Ayala Brut Nature (the zero dosage) are made from wines drawn from the same stock. Only at the point of disgorgement, when the dosage is added, is the champagne’s future determined. And yet when you try the two side by side, you’d swear they were completely different wines.
The Majeur feels not only richer, but more developed, too. It makes you think of a brioche with crystals of sugar on top. Besides being dryer, Ayala Brut Nature NV (£25.95, winedirect.co.uk; 12.5% abv) is tighter and fresher. Intense and bright, it flashes through like a comet, trailing what Augustin calls “the smell of cypress and a certain salinity that makes it go well with shellfish” in its tail. “We were surprised ourselves to see such a big difference between the two wines,” Augustin says. “It was unexpected. It seems the sugar is like a catalyst for the vinosity of the wine.”
This can make a zero-dosage champagne feel austere, more of a ski over an Alpine pass than a wander through the Tuileries in May. If you want to try one, the aforementioned Ayala is superb. I also love Larmandier-Bernier Terre de Vertus NV (£37.25, Lea & Sandeman; 12.5% abv), an edgy blanc de blancs, though its price has walloped up recently. Better value is Philipponnat Non Dose NV (£28.99, lescaves.co.uk; £29.75, Harvey Nichols), which is taut and delicious.
Aol News – David Knowles
(Feb. 21) – In addition to the three R’s, boys at one Arizona public high school have spent the past year learning to open doors for girls, pull out chairs for their female classmates and stand when a girl enters a room.
Incorporating etiquette lessons into the classroom was the brainchild of Cord Ivanyi, a Latin teacher at Gilbert Classical Academy, a public college prep school 30 miles east of Phoenix.
“I teach old-fashioned subjects,” Ivanyi told AOL News, “so I don’t think I’m doing anyone a disservice by promoting old-fashioned traditions.”
A teacher for 14 years, Ivanyi said he was inspired to start demonstrating what he considers proper etiquette after witnessing the coarse behavior that some of the boys in his classes displayed toward the girls.
“Boys treat girls pretty roughly,” he said. “And there was so much disruption, so I decided to do something about it.”
The informal lessons began with Ivanyi standing up one day after a girl in the class had left the room to go to the bathroom. As she returned, Ivanyi held open the door for her.
“She had this funny look on her face,” Ivanyi recalled. “And the other kids giggled a little.”
Soon, however, Ivanyi was schooling the 10th-grade boys on how to seat their female counterparts at their desks, by pulling out their chair and sliding it underneath them as they sat. As a show of respect, the boys were encouraged to stand any time a girl entered the room.
Behavior that was once utterly foreign has become routine. “Ninety-eight percent of the boys stand now when a girl enters the room, and the girls love it,” Ivanyi said.
As a result of the emphasis on politeness, the overall mood in the classroom has changed markedly.
“There’s a different tenor in the class, a gravity attached to the girls. They’ve been more feminized in the boys’ eyes,” Ivanyi said. “These girls are reading Jane Austen novels in class. For them, chivalry hasn’t gone out of style.”
Melissa Leonard, an etiquette instructor in New York for the past 13 years, applauds Ivanyi’s efforts. “I think it’s great if it’s practical etiquette instead of the white-glove, snobby kind.”
Leonard argues that learning proper manners helps kids navigate a variety of social situations. Sadly, too few have an understanding of the basics.
“There are some fundamental rules that are important for kids to learn, like looking someone in the eye when talking to them,” Leonard said. “And there can be a role for the school to play, especially if etiquette isn’t being taught at home.”
But is teaching gender-specific etiquette perpetuating what some consider sexist traditions?
Gilbert Classical Principal Brian Rosta stresses that the emphasis Ivanyi places on social graces is not an official part of the school’s curriculum.
Rosta has no plans to expand the politeness training, but he is a firm believer that schools can play a vital role in teaching manners.
“We often use the Latin phrase in loco parentis, ‘in place of parents,’ and sometimes we find that we need to fill the gaps that parents miss,” Rosta said. “If there are any life skills our teachers can help with, I encourage that.”
What’s more, the parents of the students in Ivanyi’s class don’t seem to mind, either.
“The only negative thing I’ve heard are parents calling to make sure that their daughters say ‘thank you’ to the boys,” Rosta said.
What’s the worst thing you can say to the nurse in an emergency room?
This and other questions are answered in an informal survey of doctors, nurses and paramedics, who offer their own insights into the inner workings of hospital emergency rooms. Every year, the nation’s emergency rooms treat 117 million patients, and the average patient spends nearly three hours in the E.R.
But what really goes on behind the scenes? The magazine Reader’s Digest quizzed emergency health workers about the quirks and peeves of the E.R. Here is some of what they had to say.
- “The busiest time starts around 6 p.m.; Mondays are the worst. We’re slowest from 3 a.m. to 9 a.m. If you have a choice, come early in the morning.” Denise King, R.N., Riverside, Calif.
- “People who are vomiting their guts out get a room more quickly. The admitting clerks don’t like vomit in the waiting area.” Joan Somes, R.N., St. Paul, Minn.
- “Never tell an E.R. nurse, ‘All I have is this cut on my finger. Why can’t someone just look at it?’ That just shows you have no idea how the E.R. actually works.” Dana Hawkins, R.N., Tulsa, Okla.
- “Don’t blame E.R. overcrowding on the uninsured. They account for 17 percent of visits. The underlying problem is hospital overcrowding in general.” Leora Horwitz, M.D., assistant professor, Yale University School of Medicine, New Haven, Conn.
- “Never, ever lie to your E.R. nurse. Their B.S. detectors are excellent, and you lose all credibility when you lie.” Allen Roberts, M.D.
- “We hear all kinds of weird stuff. I had a woman who came in at 3 a.m. and said she’d passed out while she was asleep.” Emergency physician, suburban Northeast
- “Your complaints about your prior doctor will not endear you to us. The more you say, the less we want to deal with you.” Allen Roberts, M.D.
Melody Gardot (born February 2, 1985 in New Jersey) is an American jazz singer, writer and musician in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. She has been influenced by such blues and jazz artists as Judy Garland, Janis Joplin, Miles Davis, Duke Ellington and George Gershwin as well as Latin music artists such as Stan Getz and Caetano Veloso.
Gardot follows the teachings of Buddhism, is a macrobiotic cook and humanitarian who often speaks about the benefits of music therapy. She has visited various universities and hospitals to speak about its ability to help reconnect neural pathways in the brain, improve speech ability, and lift general spirits. In a recent interview she was rumored to be working closely in a university in the United States to help develop a program for music therapy and the management of pain, something she has spoken about establishing in the future on her own.
While cycling in Philadelphia in November 2003 she was hit by a Jeep Cherokee whose driver had ignored a red traffic light. In the accident she suffered serious head and spinal injuries and her pelvis was shattered in two places. Because of these severe injuries she was confined to her hospital bed for a year and had to remain lying on her back. As a further consequence of her injuries she had to re-learn simple tasks such as brushing her teeth and walking. The most noticeable effect of the neural injuries she suffered is that she was left hyper-sensitive to both light and sound, therefore requiring her to wear dark sunglasses at nearly all times to shield her eyes. The accident also resulted in both long and short term memory problems and difficulty with her sense of time. Gardot has described coping with this as like “climbing Mount Everest every day” as she often wakes with no memory of what she has to do that day.